Build a few minutes of quiet into the run sheet. Celebration does not have to look like a ballroom. You can spark the room with drag, spoken word, or a string trio that turns into a dance set without losing yourselves in it. You will see ceremony options that ditch gendered rules, ways to brief family and friends, and guest experience details like pronouns, signage, bathrooms, and photo consent.
Build a cushion between ceremony and reception so you can move slowly, drink water, and notice the small moments you will remember later. Begin with vendors who already celebrate LGBTQ+ couples, then build from there. Ask how they brief guests around phones, photos, and pronouns before things begin.
Quick prompts to decide what stays and what goes
Which moments feel sacred to us, and why
What would make us proud to watch on video in ten years
What traditions do we love as they are, which ones do we want to adapt, and which ones can we skip without regret
Step Five: Book Inclusive Vendors
The people you hire shape your whole experience.
Lighting and power for entertainment, a quiet room for sensory breaks, and kid friendly zones if families are invited.
Privacy. Many couples of all genders are taking on the wedding finances themselves.
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Choose one or two strong signals rather than trying to include everything.
Work with an affirming celebrant or officiant
The right person will shape a ceremony that sounds like you and handle the legal pieces with care.
The planning process is the same as any wedding, you simply have more permission to make it yours.
Rethink the aisle
Walk in together, meet in the middle, or invite chosen family to accompany you. Same-sex and LGBTQ couples are eligible to get a marriage license in all 50 states to make their union legally recognized.
If anyone cannot be photographed, brief your photographer and use a discreet sticker or wristband system to signal preferences.
Want help pulling this together on the day. Here are our pronouns and the language we use for our roles.
Step Three: Build Your Timeline
A planning timeline isn’t about sticking to a rigid checklist – it’s about creating breathing space so the process feels joyful instead of rushed.
You can also invite a friend to be the point person for questions so you are not managing logistics on the day.
Language that fits
If “bride” or “groom” does not fit, choose words that do and share them with vendors and family so everyone feels confident using them. Are you drawn to natural landscapes or bold city backdrops?
Many couples of all genders are now taking on the wedding finances themselves. Start with your celebrant or officiant. What makes it feel easy is having someone on your team who knows the local rules, uses inclusive language, and files everything correctly.
You could also consider thrifting your wedding outfits or accessories, which can be a fun and unique way to add a personal touch to your big day.
It's important to keep in mind that wedding finances can be a sensitive topic, so be sure to communicate openly and honestly with your partner and anyone else involved in the planning process.
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Guests and family
Planning a wedding is an exciting time, and you can make it as traditional or unique as you like.
For example, you could have guests read poetry or a love letter during the ceremony, or even have them participate in religious rituals if that's something you're interested in.
When it comes to attire, you can keep things traditional with dresses or tuxedos, or make them your own.